There’s good reason my mantra for most realms of life has become “the only way out is through.” And my particular ennea-self would prefer to “get while the gettin’s good” 😊 Choosing to stay in it to move through it... that’s some work.
Mixing streams for a moment- it strikes me that (for me) much of moving through requires putting aside my fear of getting stuck. Which might be why this season of Lasso has been resonating so hard it rattles. Lots of unsticking by confronting the thing that needs more than just pushing through.
Another beautiful reflection. Just a few weeks ago I wasn’t sure how I was going to “get through my” some difficult family situations. For about 48 hours, all I could do was focus on my next breath. It wasn’t meditation. It was survival. “Ok you are going to take another breath now. In. Out.” Framing it as “moving through” is so helpful. It transforms my meager breath taking into gracious regard for what I could do. And it turns it into a tool I can call upon again. I have enough lived experience now to be able to call on the wisdom of the elders who shared with your grad - I would remind myself that this feeling was temporary. I would not feel like this for the rest of my life. Thank you for some new language!
Glad it was helpful. I can't remember where I first heard about moving through as an alternative to getting through. It might have been the Dear Hank and John podcast. It was an offhand comment, wherever I heard it, but provided much food for thought.
Incidentally, Hank Green just announced he has cancer, so this idea has some potency, I expect.
Moving through it. I find I do this often. And you and your siblings have parts of your dad that you carry on with in life and it’s interesting for me to observe them as they play out.
I like the idea of “moving through”, “getting through” feels more unwelcoming of the feelings. Like we shouldn’t have our world shattered and we should jut grit our teeth and carry on, and there’s something wrong with us for our emotional needs. “Moving through” feels to me like the Moon in the Tarot: the world you know by daylight looks both the same and unfamiliar in the moonlit darkness, as your journey carries on. You may stop to rest and readjust but ultimately you can’t make a safe home in the wilderness with just the clothes on your back and you need to keep journeying in this new reality
I mean... Ooof.
There’s good reason my mantra for most realms of life has become “the only way out is through.” And my particular ennea-self would prefer to “get while the gettin’s good” 😊 Choosing to stay in it to move through it... that’s some work.
Mixing streams for a moment- it strikes me that (for me) much of moving through requires putting aside my fear of getting stuck. Which might be why this season of Lasso has been resonating so hard it rattles. Lots of unsticking by confronting the thing that needs more than just pushing through.
Oof, feel this! We're connected by that line on the Enneagram, you know...
Another beautiful reflection. Just a few weeks ago I wasn’t sure how I was going to “get through my” some difficult family situations. For about 48 hours, all I could do was focus on my next breath. It wasn’t meditation. It was survival. “Ok you are going to take another breath now. In. Out.” Framing it as “moving through” is so helpful. It transforms my meager breath taking into gracious regard for what I could do. And it turns it into a tool I can call upon again. I have enough lived experience now to be able to call on the wisdom of the elders who shared with your grad - I would remind myself that this feeling was temporary. I would not feel like this for the rest of my life. Thank you for some new language!
Glad it was helpful. I can't remember where I first heard about moving through as an alternative to getting through. It might have been the Dear Hank and John podcast. It was an offhand comment, wherever I heard it, but provided much food for thought.
Incidentally, Hank Green just announced he has cancer, so this idea has some potency, I expect.
Moving through it. I find I do this often. And you and your siblings have parts of your dad that you carry on with in life and it’s interesting for me to observe them as they play out.
Would like to talk more about that sometime!
Only if you’d be interested, I’m fine with sharing but personally don’t need to for myself.
I like the idea of “moving through”, “getting through” feels more unwelcoming of the feelings. Like we shouldn’t have our world shattered and we should jut grit our teeth and carry on, and there’s something wrong with us for our emotional needs. “Moving through” feels to me like the Moon in the Tarot: the world you know by daylight looks both the same and unfamiliar in the moonlit darkness, as your journey carries on. You may stop to rest and readjust but ultimately you can’t make a safe home in the wilderness with just the clothes on your back and you need to keep journeying in this new reality
Beautiful comment, thank you Alexis!