I love the hermit crab parable, and how it broadens the bend, not break, way of forming resilience in messiness. Yes, too much rigidity is hurting us. This helps today. Thanks!
“Practice transformative justice in our closest relationships. Choose patience, communication, mediation, curiosity, boundaries, and uprooting harm over cancellation, public humiliation, ghosting people, or other methods of disposing of people. (Holding Change, pp. 171-172)”
This feels very toxic and one sided. Only one of the two men crucified with Jesus repented. I think unless the “closest relationship” has an openness to having transformative justice practiced on them, it’s just another way in which guilt and shame keep good people pinned in bad relationships.
In the book she takes this up more fully and is quite clear that a default orientation toward transformative justice doesn’t mean it’s possible or even preferable in every single case. Especially in situations of abuse. The perils of summarizing an extremely nuanced book! Thank you for your comment Beth.
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I love the hermit crab parable, and how it broadens the bend, not break, way of forming resilience in messiness. Yes, too much rigidity is hurting us. This helps today. Thanks!
“Practice transformative justice in our closest relationships. Choose patience, communication, mediation, curiosity, boundaries, and uprooting harm over cancellation, public humiliation, ghosting people, or other methods of disposing of people. (Holding Change, pp. 171-172)”
This feels very toxic and one sided. Only one of the two men crucified with Jesus repented. I think unless the “closest relationship” has an openness to having transformative justice practiced on them, it’s just another way in which guilt and shame keep good people pinned in bad relationships.
In the book she takes this up more fully and is quite clear that a default orientation toward transformative justice doesn’t mean it’s possible or even preferable in every single case. Especially in situations of abuse. The perils of summarizing an extremely nuanced book! Thank you for your comment Beth.
Thank you for your reply!